Choosing a profession, we invigorate ourselves with dreams of a dizzying career, a Google-style office space and friendly colleagues. In practice, things are usually different, and before finding our working happiness, we have to go through all stages of professional development - from hatred and denial to labor ecstasy and indifference.
If you feel that work is driving you deeper and deeper into melancholy, and the forces for internal struggle are nearing zero, it's time to look for ways to get out of the situation. No, this is not about dismissal (although this makes sense if the light is no longer pleasant to you), but about the consistent replacement of negative associations with a constructive strategy of office life.
So, let’s breathe in and breathe out, remember that #the happiness of women in work, and begin to fight for it. Let's start eradicating the typical thoughts that spoil our mood and prevent us from making a living with pleasure. Below, for consolidation - some good books that will help rebuild the attitude to work.
THOUGHT # 1. "How to get through the day?"
Or like this: "Oh, how you don't want to go to work …" Sound familiar? It usually catches up in the morning or evening, when you are snuggled up under the covers.
The main advice is trite to the shivers: change your attitude to what is happening. Don't cheat yourself against circumstances by deliberately presenting them in a negative light. Think of all the positives, including a decent office, professional experience, a stable salary, and paid vacation. The truth is, there is no perfect job. Life in the office is not a TV series where everyone constantly dines with clients in expensive restaurants and drinks in bars with sexy colleagues at the end of the day.
Of course, there is a chance that everything is really terrible for you, but, most likely, this is just laziness. Or does your body need support - check with a doctor, donate blood, maybe there is simply not enough energy? The danger is that apathy and the habit of sparing yourself will eventually lead you into more negative jungle. Pull yourself together, don't run the situation!
THOUGHT # 2. "I was just flunked and I can't handle it."
There may be different circumstances - you need to pick up the affairs of a temporarily retired colleague or a chronically frantic workload. In any case, what difference does it make if it depresses you?
In an ideal world, we should all be able to talk to our boss about being overwhelmed and get our responsibilities back on track as stipulated in the contract. In reality, most likely, you will have to act more cunningly. Yes, the boss is very comfortable that you are ready to rush into the embrasure, but you have your own interests. Look around and find options for solving the problem - for example, share with one of your colleagues your fallen responsibilities. The point is for the problem to be resolved and you don't have to carry everything on your shoulders. It is possible that your managerial skills will resonate with your employer.
But, if for some reason you want to show off supernormal abilities without material compensation, prioritize - spend 10 minutes at the beginning and end of each day, determining the sequence of tasks for the week and checking the schedule with reality in order to keep everything under control.
THOUGHT # 3. "Yes, everything depends on me here!"
There is a very modest distance from a fair comment to a self-importance complex, usually measured by attitude towards colleagues. Anxiety symptoms are manifested in tears / anger ("Well, how can you be so irresponsible!" "Do everything again!") Or constant complaints to friends and family.
Here you can use the advice of the previous paragraph, or even better - take a break and look at the situation from the outside. A good test is to ask yourself if the task you are solving with such zeal will be relevant for the company and for you personally in six months? And a year later? If the answer is no, calm down, stop saving the world, and return to the other joys of life.
THOUGHT # 4. "I clearly lack education"
Not sure about the knowledge of modern technology, floating in the news and do not know who Justin Trudeau is? OK, not only you. Before asking for a lower position or writing an application, talk to someone familiar with your responsibilities. Your self-esteem may be objective, but it is also possible that you are much more critical of yourself than anyone else. Relax, take it easy. And learning is always relevant. Information is like money - sooner or later you will find a use for it.
THOUGHT # 5. “These customers / buyers / customers are drinking my blood”
Working with people is a noble work, but often thankless. Some have a vocation for this, while others are constantly teetering on the brink of failure. Iron nerves are not given to everyone, so the balance is maintained on three pillars: simplicity of dialogue, acceptance of the instability of the human personality and sincere attitude towards the interlocutor.
And you don't have to stay where you are really unhappy. Indeed, why suffer if service is not your strong point.
THOUGHT # 6. "I was exhausted, and before vacation - eternity"
Returning to point 1. Plus, we add colors to life after the office: walks, dates, spa sessions, shopping, movies, parties. Get plenty of sleep - at least on weekends if you can't get yourself into bed early on weekdays. And don't reflect, please don't drag your work home. Allow 5 minutes for internal burnout after a hard day (ha-ha, this is a joke, but why not), and better replace it with meditation.
When changing attitudes towards work, it is useful to assess the situation from a positive side: what is good there? Decent salary? Great, you can dress fashionably and travel. Nice and / or smart colleagues? Well, great, take a few minutes every day to chat or have a cup of coffee with them (yes, they'll be happy too). Do you have a desk or even your own office? Great, make a nest, create a pleasant atmosphere: posters, flowers, a picture of a cat or boyfriend … Health insurance and paid vacation? Super, go through medical examination and use the vacation fully. Still unbearable to work? Build and develop connections, polish resumes, and learn new things - it's never wasted.
BONUS: BOOKS ON THE TOPIC
Christine Hassler. “Manifesto of the Twenties. Who we are, what we want and how to achieve it "
The book for those who are at the beginning of their careers is actually useful at any stage in life - it provides useful answers to questions and along the way explains that passion for work does not come from nowhere, but is the result of self-education, experience, support and regulated positive emotions. In general, this is a process, not a result that can and should be enjoyed.
David Sturt. “Great Work. How to find inspiration, love your job and start earning "
From a book by OC Tanner Co., Executive Vice President, author of The Wall Street Journal, MSNBC and Human Capital, learn how to develop five practical skills that will help you come up with fresh ideas, innovative approaches, and work that gets noticed and appreciated.
Barbara Sher. "What to dream about"
In addition to discussions on the topic and useful tips of a psychological nature, the book has enough practical exercises that will add happy notes to workdays. For example, an as if call to action. Work as if you are a top-notch employee. Dress as if you are already a top manager. Act as if you deserve the position you are applying for. And you will be proud of yourself, even if someone from the outside does not appreciate your efforts.